It all started with denial…
I have always considered myself a smart girl. I have more than one master degree, have traveled the world, and run a company. I also worked for years on issues related to teen pregnancy. So surely I would know if I was pregnant.
I remember feeling exhausted. Not my normal, overworked, insomnia driven tired but falling asleep, no option must take a nap, exhausted. I have never in my life been able to nap but all of a sudden I could fall asleep for no reason in the middle of the day. I told my college friend and fellow mommy entrepreneur, how I was feeling and she said, “Do you think you could be pregnant?”
Just the week before I told another college friend that I was going to the doctor to see if I had PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome) because the symptoms matched some of the symptoms I had for years and I was sure I was going to face fertility issues due to PCOS. ( Did I mention, I am a victim of self diagnosis through WebMD at times, LOL)
I brushed off the pregnancy comment with my normal, no I am just stressed and overworked and went back to life as usual. But after a week of this being so tired I can’t function, I started to wonder if she was right.
See, movies and the media will have us single girls believing that if we are pregnant, we will instantly start throwing up. The nausea will be the first sign that something is out of whack in our system. But Don’t Believe the Hype! My major takeaway from my pregnancy was it is so different for every single person. I never had morning sickness and the major sign for me was feeling like I was hit by a truck every afternoon.
So I took a pregnancy test not truly believing I could be pregnant. And there it was in bold print on the stick within seconds. PREGNANT. This can’t be true. It has to be something wrong with this test. But after 8 more tests one should trust the reading right…Wrong.
I stayed in denial until I went to my doctor. I figured this must just be some hormonal imbalance from my endometriosis or maybe some other issue. But then she sent me the results and I was several weeks pregnant.
Time to move out of denial and get it together!
My first trimester I had the following experiences:
- Exhaustion like I could not believe
- Horrible skin boils – so gross and unexpected. The dermatologist said it was an infection due to the changes in my hormones. Painful and the nastiest part of the pregnancy. Thankfully only lasted through the first 8 weeks and my skin turned 100% back to normal in the second trimester.
- Craving for mozzarella sticks and reuben sandwiches
- Aversion to sweets – I couldn’t believe it. Prior to being pregnant I could have lived on cake but within weeks of becoming pregnant anything sweet was a turn off. I craved only salty snacks.
When I finally realized and believed that I was pregnant, it still took me a while to get used to the idea. Unplanned pregnancies, (especially when becoming pregnant naturally is not even something you believe can happen and you are an ultimate planner by nature) take time to get used to. I worried about being unprepared, I worried about the strength of my relationship, I worried if I was being selfish if I decided to parent this child given I had not planned to become a parent at this time. But then I eventually realized/remembered what a blessing it was to be able to conceive a child, to be a parent etc. I was in a much better situation than many women who have become mothers and I had months to get ready right…
I was not even close to understanding what I was in for. Stay tuned!